Conflict Management

My nephew is currently enrolled in college. He has been doing very well and excels in his classes. He choose to enroll in this college program offered to veterans because he could not find a job. This program pays for him to go to college and provides him with an apartment. He wants to stop the program for the summer and seek a job for the summer.  He says he needs a break. This will stop all finances and he will be left to pay for the apartment for the three months of not attending. I think he should continue to attend during the summer because he does not have a job lined up and the unemployment rate is high in our area. I think he is getting tired of me telling him what my thoughts are. I not trying to be a nag, but I have seen my nephew homeless and living in a shelter, prior to entering this program.

Strategy 1: Debate and Argue

I would use this technique because it would allow me to ask probing questions that would require specific and precise answers. Hopefully this would allow my nephew to see the pros and cons of his decision. It would also allow me to see why he may not be interested in completing the program he is enrolled in. This will also help us exchange ideas and build a better relationship.

Strategy 2: Consider Options and Alternative

I would suggest that my nephew check with the school to see if he can reduce his hours of attendance and find part time employment through the school.

Strategy 3: Consider the Importance of the Outcome

I would clarify the consequences of my nephews choices, by emphasizing the need for him to have shelter.